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Wednesday, October 3, 2012


Driving the other day I spotted this note spray painted near an overpass by my house which reminded me that October is National Domestic Violence awareness month. DV is a cause that is close to my heart. I was a victim of dating violence in the past, a fact I don't often share because it is not a time in my life I like to remember and feels so far away from where I am now. But I feel it is important to share these things about ourselves to help release the burden of shame that no victim should own in the first place. It is also the most important step in not allowing the cycle of violence to continue. Silence only protects the violence and nothing else. I later went on to be a family advocate, the director of a Domestic Violence shelter and then child abuse prevention work. The stories I could share are heartbreaking and too often there are children involved. I still think about about many of those stories and the people today. I firmly believe that peace begins in our own homes. Both being peaceful and being violent are learned behaviors. In order to have a more peaceful world we certainly can't tolerate violence behind closed doors. Last year I wrote more information on DV with information for victims as well as their support systems. You can find that post here.

If you have any questions please feel free to leave them in the comments or email me privately.

9 comments:

  1. I think advocacy is extremely important. Far too often statistics of DV, rape, molestation, etc are all skewed because the emotions that follow are extremely private, and people hold back their stories. It makes me happy that there are people like you strong enough for others to go to for guidance. <3

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    1. It's so true. They are really difficult things to share and talk about. I understand the need for the privacy to deal with such hurts. But it's also so important that those in the situations know they are not alone and that they can get out and go on to lead wonderful lives!

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  2. We live by that overpass. It makes us smile. You are a strong person.

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    1. We are neighbors! I love your shop btw :) Thank you xx

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  3. Love should never hurt. Abuse escalates, it's a proven fact. Abuse happens everywhere - it's happening behind the closed doors in million dollar homes, middle class suburban homes, to the poorest-of-the-poor neighborhoods.
    Great post, Christine!
    A big hug!

    Inés
    SimplyClassyMe.blogspot.com

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  4. Even the words 'I love you' can bring peace to a troubled heart. I'm so glad for the work you're doing.

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    1. Thanks, I don't do that work anymore - I really loved it but it's really difficult to continue for a long period of time. Emotionally it's just comsuming and after adding my twins to my life I didn't feel capable of not carrying that burden home with me. I so admire those that can continue doing such hard work! It takes a lot of strength.

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  5. You said it so well: peace begins in our own homes. Thank you for sharing, Christine. It's important for people to come forward and speak up, they don't only help themselves, but so many more others by opening up.
    Ada

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