Ha ha, I know it's err; don't send the grammar police just yet - though I have a long history of offenses. When I was little my mom had a button that said "to err is human, to forgive is divine" and I was always perplexed why they left off the "or" in "error." I thought it was being cheeky. Before I started blogging I had a more critical eye for grammar. However, whatever wrongdoings I committed in my previous lives has burdened me in this one to only be able to edit and correct my grammatical mistakes once I have hit the post/reply/comment button. I am also a copy and paster and sentence re-arranger, so those crazy mystery comments I leave you - that's how that happens. I also use commas like it's new years eve and they are a handfuls of confetti. I just toss them everywhere. But, truth to be told, that's how my mind works. There are a lot of pauses. Sometimes I think backwards and have to sort it all out later. I think emotionally. Not technically.
But I am digressing. I am not writing this to air my dirty grammar laundry. You all see it everyday anyway. I am writing this because I read this and this, and I realized that I had somewhere in my years of blogging also taken on a similar viewpoint. While I still believe that proper grammar should be taught and used (and I know it's probably scary for everyone over 25 that we r goin 2 b riten like this n the near futr), I don't think that it all bothers me so much anymore. I love that people write and that there are so many opportunities for people to do so now.
I love language, which is why I used to be so stringent with grammar and spend evenings excitedly curled up on my sofa with the dictionary in my hand. And when I was in college and I would get a 20 page paper back with a the words "comma splice" written just once in that terrible red ink, I would get a belly ache. One of the reasons I love poetry is because there are so many lovely rules to follow. It can be like math with words and I adore that aspect of it (not to be confused with me loving math - i don't). Have you ever written a sonnet? It's exhilarating if you're into that sort of thing. On the flip side I also adore that it can be a place where you can break every rule and it's okay. Language isn't always best communicated with rules dictating it. Some of my favorite books and authors are writers who write lyrically, or write beautiful paragraphs of prose where when broken up with proper grammar would disrupt the lyricism and emotional artistry of the woven words. While I am still a stickler for commas and periods inside quotation marks and I cringe at the mix-up of they're/their/there, I know I am guilty of simple typing mistakes such as these here and there too. It just doesn't faze me quite so much because I realized I love learning about people through reading what they are saying (and I never loved seeing that my paper had to be written in MLA format anyway). Sometimes the mistakes, purposeful or intentional, give me a reason to pause and try to understand where exactly a person is coming from. This often gives me more insight into what they are saying, rather than how they are saying it. We all have our grammar opinions, what is yours?